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I want to be a Doctor

Sharmini Jana

I grew up watching several parents boasting around announcing to the whole taman and where ever they go on how their children has always wanted to be a doctor ever since they were young. May it be a wedding function, temple thiruvizha, family reunion or wherever they go, there’s always an aunty somewhere talking about this:

Girl-ke/Boy-ke chinne pille-le iruntey doctor aganum nu aasai.

 

These ‘self-announcements’ are done once their children obtained good results for their UPSR/PMR, yes I’m not kidding. When the child managed to get into the science stream, the child is automatically labeled as a doctor by the family without even knowing the child’s real interest/talents and most importantly, the parents are not even aware of the child’s current performance in the class. Once the SPM/STPM results are announced, these are the same parents who either blame/curse the education system/examination paper marking system/ university intake procedure;

Intha varusam nambe pillingeh result eh kavutetanungeh, ellam vote kage tan. Ippo partiya epdi achu nu…

Class le ivanodeh mosama padikeravanunke ellam nalla result tukki kuduterekanungeh, avanungeh aalu.. en magan sonna. Paavingeh..ipdi senjitanungeh…


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They would twist and turn the whole ‘self-announcement’ according to the result/courses offered. Read more…

8 comments - What do you think?  Posted by ragedindian - December 26, 2013 at 6:26 am

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‘White’ Skinned Meenachis

Srinisha Nair

I just feel that the topic you currently shared Dark Skinned Meenachis is so close to my heart that I would like to say something, my share of it. I am your typical south indian girl, except fairer than most of them. I can tell you, it has never been a bed of roses for me. I’ve been mentally, emotionally, and sexually harassed due to my fair skin colour.

I’ve worked in a few call centres previously for short periods during my semester breaks and it was one of my toughest times. When you’re fair, every freakin attention falls on you. I walk into my office, you have men staring at you from top to bottom and girls giving you that cold stares. I was always pushed, never accepted, no Indian girl was ready to accept me as a friend. There was one time, I was rushing to work so I took a cab to the LRT station. As I got down the cab, I noticed there was an Indian man standing at the walkway towards the LRT station staring at me and I had to pass him.

He was very tall, very big, and very dark. He had a surgical mask on him. I thought to myself “just walk pass him quickly”. I was wearing a pink salwar kameez that day. So I paid the driver and started walking. When I passed by behind him, all of a sudden, he turned around, removed his mask, looks at me and goes like “unekke enna rombhe veleiya irekumne nenepa?” and he spat on my face. Yes, literally spat on my face! I was 19 and a very naive person then. I remember an Indonesian guy pushed that man and shouted at him for spitting on me. I just ran. Ran away from there, up to the LRT station’s washroom. I saw myself in the mirror, his spit and plegm covered my forehead and eyebrows.

I shivered, cried and cried and cried. I just want to tell you, writing this piece of memory now took me lots of courage cause I imagined that moment and it was a nightmare. I wanted to be normal, just like every other girl. I hated being fair. I wanted to burn under the sun and be dark!

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28 comments - What do you think?  Posted by ragedindian - December 5, 2013 at 4:41 pm

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Dark Skinned Meenachis

Zangeetha Raghavan

 

I wrote this after doing several research,reading  on the origins of colourism and based on my own personal experiences. Extensive research has been done in the West regarding this matter.

Colourism among the Indian community. According to Wikipedia,  Discrimination based on skin color, or colorism, is a form of prejudice or discrimination in which human beings are treated differently based on the social meanings attached to skin color.

As you may have realized, this community has a preference for light skinned people. Despite the fact that South Indians are mostly from the Dravidian etymology  and Dravidians mostly are dark skinned our genetic patterns and the climate of the place we originated from.

I am a dark skinned girl from a middle class family and all my life, I have been reminded again and again of my dark skin, in a very negative connotation. Many Indian aunties have given me abundance of free advice on how to make my skin colour lighter ( ranging from applying sandalwood/turmeric powder on my face, to using products such as Fair and Lovely and Fairever). As a child, I wont deny that all this have given me a low self esteem.  I would never leave my house without some powder on my face. And I remember in secondary school where some of my Indian school mates used to call me “Kaka” (crow in Tamil). Of course, 10 years later, looking back I can understand the idiosyncratic behavior of these people and laugh, but can you imagine how it impacted my self esteem back then?

SK Durai : I must admit due to my ignorance, I’ve called many the same.

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7 comments - What do you think?  Posted by ragedindian - December 2, 2013 at 3:07 pm

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